Support - what does it look like to you?

Mental Illness has many cloaks – one cloak does not fit all.  It looks and feels different for each person.

Each year I go through a slump – Mid August to Mid October – give or take a day here or there. All tied up with loss, a loss that continues to haunt me 40+ years later!

Am I "clinically" depressed – not according to doctors.   

Am I functioning – some would say not as well as usual but I still hold down a job and I still manage to feed myself and my cats.  I function and therefore I am!   If “I Am” then I must exist.  If I exist then I must worthy.  If I am worthy then I have a life to lead until the next time.

And so here I am coming up to mid October and I am coming out of my funk … I am beginning to think that “I Am”.

Everyone goes through “funks” …. Times when they feel depleted and not themselves.  Times where they are no longer as focused or vital as they would wish they were.

For me I withdraw – I centre myself and I become a little selfish and put me first.  I take time for me. I have tried going to a counsellor but that was definitely not right. And maybe that was the counsellor. Perhaps, a different person may have been more helpful.

What worked for you? Did you call a friend?  Did you push your body fitness wise? Did you self-medicate.

What did “support” look like for you?

I think of “Support” as a coat of many pockets …. A pocket with your family, another for your friends. A pocket with ideas.  A pocket with a list of support groups. A pocket that has a warm blanket and great coffee. A pocket for my work where I can burrow into work, a big pocket for my cats!! <3

Support is not just provided by people, it could be having “You” time doing something you love.

We join the Network looking for Support.  As a Network we need to understand better the changing needs of our Members …….. What does Support look like to you?  If you have a coat of many pockets – what would be in your pockets?

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Diana Ayling

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  • It’s a bit tricky to answer.  We tried counselling because our GP’s nurse thought it might help in some way, not sure why she thought we needed it but we went anyway.

    We found that talking to a counsellor was of no use to us, as all she wanted us to do was forget what happened.  If we all take that kind of advice then the medical professionals and hospitals would never have to worry again, would they ?  They would just do whatever they wanted to with whomever they chose to do it.  No consent.  No consultation.  Sweet for them.

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